When her boyfriend accused her of getting him banned from his favorite restaurant during his birthday meal, the young woman resorted to the internet for support.
What transpired to cause him to point a finger at her is still an unanswered mystery.
An anonymous female contributor vented her displeasure on June 17, 2023, in the popular “AITA” subreddit. John, 20, and the 18-year-old lady had been dating for less than a year. Though their relationship was often free of toxic dynamics, her vegetarianism was a major source of conflict.
Since she was eleven years old, she had dedicated herself to vegetarianism due of her strong moral convictions. But there was one thing in particular that John found annoying: she wouldn’t spend her money on meat.
When she acquired her own money, she had promised herself she would not spend a dime on meat goods. Their shared meals together brought this disagreement to light. They divided the bill most of the time, though occasionally John paid for all. If he went with the meatless option, she had made it clear that she would gladly pay for both. Oddly enough, he seldom did.
He only ever paid for her meals when she used her money to pay for events they both attended together, such as festivals and concerts. In these cases, she may spend €120+$125 on tickets and he would pay around €50 ($50) for dinner.
What Was the Birthday Dinner About?
The young woman celebrated her boyfriend’s birthday at his preferred luxury restaurant a few days prior to sharing her Reddit story. He treated himself to the most expensive steak available, along with a bottle of wine and a side salad.
John was taken aback when the woman asked for separate bills from the waiter after the lunch was over. Seemingly dubious, he inquired whether she was kidding. She asserted firmly that she wasn’t.
John was confused by this and said that he hadn’t budgeted for the supper since he thought she would pay the bill because it was his birthday. Confused, she asked him to clarify his assumption and reminded him of her long-standing policy of not buying meat with her money. However, he did not offer any explanation for his anticipation beyond the fact that it was his birthday.
In an attempt to reach a compromise, the young lady offered to pay for the side salad and the wine, but she expected her boyfriend to foot the bill for the pricey steak. But her suggestion simply made him more enraged, and in a fit of rage, he stormed off to the restroom.
She paid for her dinner, the wine, and the salad, hoping to patch things up while she waited for him to come back. However, as the minutes passed, he did not materialize. Perplexed by his sudden absence and surprising reaction, she decided to leave after waiting for him for twenty minutes without seeing him.
The original poster found her partner shortly later, seated on a bench close to where they had parked the car. Perplexed, she asked about his sudden disappearance and restated that he still had to pay for his share.
It was obvious how shocked he was; he didn’t appear to know that she had paid. His response erupted when she said that she had covered everything but the meat. He launched into a tirade of charges, calling her conceited and telling her to mature.
OP kept calm in the face of her partner’s growing rage and insisted that he had to go back to the restaurant to pay the bill. But he dismissed her offer with a sneer and turned to go. She had to drive home alone when he refused to accept responsibility, leaving her to deal with the fallout from his unplanned outburst.
OP’s boyfriend accused her of being the reason he couldn’t go back to his favorite restaurant, bringing up the dine-and-dash episode. Because of how little the restaurant was, he would surely be noticed and quickly ejected. His charges forced her to turn to the internet community for support, which made her doubt the morality of what she was doing.
The woman said that she had gone above and above by using her funds to get her boyfriend a present on his birthday in response to others who had questioned her choice to not treat him. It wasn’t enough for him, though, still. Additionally, OP made it clear that her partner had suggested going out for dinner in the first place, not her.
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